The other day I went to meet someone and I noticed a shift in my demeanor. I was pretty upbeat until I went to meet him and it all shifted. In that shift I began to think about his demeanor; he was totally straightforward, no small talk. As I walked away I began to put it all on him, “what’s his problem”, “why is he so grumpy”, “he could be a little more polite?” He just didn’t seem (to me) to want to engage. But then I had to stop and think, it’s not on him it’s up to me. If you were walking along “feeling good, feeling great,” why…